You Can't Always Get What You Want! - Part 1

Whataya want from me? or God, even the Universe; for those who behold that belief highly, is a big question to all of us. It might arise in the unlikeliest of places, like on an endless shopping spree or in one of those leisure bathroom breaks where your mind escapes to infinity; lost in a deep thought. Even in the awakening arousing from a phrase in the novel assigned by the book club or when we explore the unexplainable nature of our imagined world. In our loneliest hours; all by ourselves, maybe praying where there is always the tendency to become carried away and greedy, demanding for more than what's in our reach, overlooking the line drawn between what we rightly deserve and that we don't. Bottom line, everyone wants!

However, is it really harmful that you want something so badly - that to have it in your hands is dearest to you at the moment, no matter what the price is? Well of course not, unless it becomes an obsession which is a different scenario it self. Sadly, this very word is quite often degraded by its usage, by many who rather use it in the sense of a desire. To want something is to want it earnestly, with all your heart and soul. You seek it until you achieve it, you give it your best shot. As sometimes things do not work out, the way you 'want' them to - all you can do is try.

The best example that pops up in my mind, is the time before the announcement of ones previous examinations result, where students as a last resort murmur similar words, "Oh God! I wish that i get all A's in my exams, please God! Pleeasssee. It is very important, that I have these grades, my mom is going to kill me otherwise. I want all A's. I will do anything, I will be a good person." There you go, the irony lies in the statement itself; where at one point a person is wishing for something to happen than later on wanting it. If someone really did want it in the first place, than why on Earth did he not direct all his efforts towards it when he had the chance? Rather than later on grieving and regretting being in such a situation where prayers could only save him, where uncertainty takes over him.

The answer is quite simple, he never wanted that, he would have preferred to have it, wished that he did; as his future would have been easier without the need to struggle through unforeseen obstacles but his life wouldn't have been over in his eyes if he didn't. He would have survived, dealt with it and moved on. Though if the very same person, did manage to luckily enough surprise his own self and got the desired result, than instead of being grateful for this precious gift, his rock and roll all night and party everyday attitude would have taken shape. A person who wanted those grades truthfully, would have known that he deserves them and wouldn't have created such a fuss about getting them; after having their heart set on achieving that and spending so much time earning them, why bother wasting another breath on it.

There is only a very thin line between wishes and wants; you wish for something when you realize that it would be a very unlikely case that you possess it or have the chance of doing it. Wishes are usually very straight forward, something that one really doesn't hide as they are just a mere reflection of ones own self. Ones deepest wishes are his desires, acknowledging them means discovering our inner self and accepting the core of our motivations. When we deny our desires and attach rules or codes to our lives, we cut ourselves off from our gifts, love and creativity. It secretly posses a threat to our success both in career and personally; our optimum potential is not enhanced, abilities are not capped and well, loss of interest is just one of the initial steps towards a self destructive path.

So what, big deal, just a few grammatical errors than and there - doesn't really make a difference, right? That's most probably going through your head by now. There is a saying that goes like, "If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed" and the wrong interpretation of these words well can be hurtful, misleading and dismaying. Yes, there are quite a few many variances of these words but they all have their differences and that's what is important to recognize over here.

Wants. Wishes. Desires. Hopes. Dreams. Lust. Long. Crave. Yearn. Aspire.

To be continued ...